what you really want

what you really want

If you’re in the throes of job hunting long enough, you can become thoroughly exhausted.

A mixture of insecurities, positive thinking, intense preparation, putting your foot in your mouth during an interview, then putting your best foot forward afterward, again and again, can tend to land you in a blender full of Overwhelm pulp.

And the longer the hunt goes on, the more debilitating it can become. Or, on better days, the more determined you can become, to improve yourself and try again. But boy, staying steady while on that see-saw of defeat can be one of the most challenging feats to accomplish, at least for me.

Speaking of me, let’s do the math… I attempted getting on at the same company for a year and a half and applied for six jobs there.

From those six jobs, I interviewed for three positions.

Of those three positions, two of them required a second round of interviews— so, five interviews total with this company, not including speaking with HR first, for each position. It felt like so much more than five interviews… because of the intense prep, then actually doing the interviews, then writing thank you follow-ups…

I once believed I would somehow have a better chance at landing a position, if I put enough positive vibes into the universe.

I don’t believe that anymore. I don’t believe saying to the universe, “Please give me the job,” or “Please, Mr. or Ms. Decision Maker, pick me,” will make any difference at all.

What did make ALL the difference, was how I took the hits, managed the see-saw. And fortunately, eventually I landed a position within the company.

Failure can be useful when it leads to re-assesment.

So, the way I see it— there are two layers of assessment.

Layer One, top level

Continue to strengthen job hunting tools: resumes, LinkedIn presence and membership, interviewing skills, maybe hire a career coach… although a coach is pricey

Layer Two, deeper level 

Determine if the pros and cons with leaving your current job and going to the prospective new one will truly make a difference in your level of happiness. However, keep in mind no matter which job we have, we alone determine our overall happiness.

I’m once again offering Jennice Vilhauer’s work to you as a resource. She works with people, to help them get more out of life, and she tells us a lot of people don’t know what they want their life to look like when she asks them.

She makes a point that the choices can be overwhelming, but, for the most part, we know what we don’t want in our lives, such as war or poverty. She tells us once we have identified what we don’t want, we can flip it and hone in on what we do want.

She tells us to get as specific as possible and offers a worksheet to help with this here.

To read more about how to hone in on what you want and change your expectations, read her article here.