flex the positive thinking muscle

flex the positive thinking muscle

It’s not lost on me how there are more posts in the “relationship with self” category than any other on this blog. It’s because I’m introspective and want to always move toward being happier with myself. If you’re reading this, you probably want the same.

I’m more consistent than ever with implementing good habits. This helps show my unconscious mind I’m capable of accomplishing the things I’ve set out to do. The other evening I was in bed working on my writing, and a flash of feeling like my future self washed over me; it was as if I was experiencing the beginnings of that future self in the present. This future self is humbly confident, focused, independent, and moving forward with intention. Currently, I am that person in many aspects, but still in the process of extricating myself from the past.

That’s where it gets tricky… past thoughts, past ways of living, past relationships, past experiences… and I’ve had a good life, but I haven’t experienced freedom and joy to the extent I’ve wanted to… so my mind sometimes tries to slyly slide into a more greyish, negative undertone, perhaps from underlying anxiety, particularly in the beginning of the day, even if I’ve had a stellar week of staying focused on my goals! What’s this about? Seems to me it’s from years of habitually allowing the negative undertone to be the boss. The cool thing is, now I realize, I have a choice! Instead, I can flex the positive thinking muscle. 

How do we continue to move on from the past?

We reframe our thinking patterns and focus on what we want rather than on what we don’t want.

We focus on what is working in our lives rather than what isn’t, but we’re honest about the things in our lives that aren’t working, so we can change them… but remember, there are pros and cons to most change, so hopefully it betters the situation overall.

We take the valuable lessons from the past, the situations that gave us insight, and hold them close, while the rest of what didn’t serve us disinigrates to ash and blows away.

It took a really long time for me to understand positive thinking is more than just a cliché. We’ve heard it so many times, it can be difficult to take a step back and implement positive thinking into our lives through practice.

I like this Healthline article because it gives us concrete actions we can take, to practice positivity. The article tells us we can do the following to practice positive thinking:

1) focus on the good things

2) practice gratitude

3) keep a gratitude journal

4) open up to humor

5) spend time with positive people

6) practice positive self-talk

For me, number 6, practice positive self-talk, is huge. It’s the one I’ve failed at the most when working toward becoming version 2.0! Which means I haven’t had my own back nearly enough. This is definitely changing, and I hope it does for you, too. The next time we’re tempted to put ourselves down, let’s reframe it in a positive light, encourage ourselves, and have our own backs.

I also like how this article tells us, “Positive thinking isn’t about burying every negative thought or emotion you have or avoiding difficult feelings. The lowest points in our lives are often the ones that motivate us to move on and make positive changes.”

Brilliant! This isn’t about being fake. This is about facing what is real, working through it, and then training our minds to focus on the positive, to help move us forward quicker.

Click here to read the article!